Someone asked me the other day how I would define “spirituality”, writes Tamara Lee Dorris…
That’s a tricky one for me, especially when I don’t have Wikipedia nearby. I racked my brain for a few minutes, then lied and said I had an appointment. This was something I needed to give some serious thought to. So, after much deliberation, I have come to my final, current definition of what it means to be a spiritual person. I say current because, I’m a girl, and we females reserve the right to change our mind whenever significant new develops arise or when we have a bad hair day. Today my hair is fine, thank you for asking.
There’s an adage I’ve heard numerous times so I’m not sure who to credit it to, thus, I’ll just pretend I made it up myself (which is not true at all). It goes like this: We are spiritual beings having a human experience. Wait! I heard Wayne Dyer say it last, so let’s go ahead and credit him for it. The idea, though, helps us get our heads around the premise of spirituality. I mean, we’re all so busy all the time, so stuck in the middle of our human experience that it’s very easy to think that’s all there is. And how flipping scary is that idea?! If the purpose of life was cutting coupons, trying to be first in line at Jiffy Lube, and wondering if these pants make my butt look big (they do), then no wonder we get depressed and eat too much ice cream.
The truth is, that when we recognize there is something beyond “this” that is eternal and expansive; we can begin to understand that life has greater meaning than what simply meets the eye. And thank goodness for that. If my life was just about dentist appointments and how many bars I have on my cell phone, I think I’d need a lot more wine. Whatever you call ‘beyond this,’ is fine with me. You may call it, God, Source, Allah, Energy, All That Is, heck, you might even call it Caffeine — I’ve had those mornings myself, so for that I will not judge. The point is that when we recognize there is something beyond what we are seeing in our current physical reality, our current physical reality becomes so much easier to manage, accept and navigate through.
And here’s the interesting catch. In order to go beyond what you see in your physical reality, you have to be in it. You know, the power of now and all that jazz. Seriously though, when is the last time you sat at a red light and simply held your mind still? No thoughts, no judging, no wondering what your mother was going to text you next (bless you if your mom got a smart phone, too). It’s nearly impossible! We’re always reliving the past — especially the negative things (why do we do that!?), or planning the future, or worrying that we’ll be late for our appointment or that our kid has the funniest hair cut. You get what I mean.
To be able to sit in silence … anywhere … well, I’d skip the casino or Starbucks, but you know what I mean. To be able to sit in silence, and be in acceptance of whatever is going on. To know that there is so much more beyond what meets the eye and that we each are infinite, perfect, eternal beings. To be okay with what is, and to know beyond a shadow of a doubt that it’s all just a temporary status. To understand there is a reason for all that is. To follow your bliss and share it with others.
That is what spirituality is to me. Ahem. 🙂
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Tamara Lee Dorris has been a life-long fan of personal and spiritual development, and has written several books that fall under the category of “self-help.” She wrote Secrets of a Spiritual Guru as a way of poking fun at how easy it is to become an online expert. Her other novels revolve around contemporary issues and spiritual enlightenment. Tamara is also an adjunct professor, radio host, and long time real estate professional who has gone crazy selling houses, loves yoga, drinks wine and is still as addicted as ever to personal development. She lives in Northern California with a bunch of annoying animals and her husband. She has four kids that she likes a lot and a mother that drives her nuts.